Your marriage may conflict with your values, By Elizabeth Badejo

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The historic event of last week, the royal coronation in England, marked with grand pageantry and the magnificent demonstration of culture of almost a thousand years, was made inclusive to identify with the present time. The love story between the recently crowned King Charles III of England and his wife Camilla, the Queen Consort, may not interest many people, especially those who continue to hold the memories of the new king’s first wife, Princess Diana, remarkably close to their hearts. Lessons can be learnt from the whole chronicle, which brought about Queen Camilla, especially in this very unpredictable marriage institution which can sometimes conflict with personal values. There are few narratives to this royal love story and whether you love or loathe them, theirs is like many couples out there battling with their minds and decisions to stay in a loveless marriage even though their hearts are with someone else.

 FOR THE LOVE OF FAMILY

Many marriages are struggling today due to the interfering influence of the couple’s parents, who forced them to marry someone they (parents) preferred rather than their own choice. Even though most parents want the best for their children, choosing a soul mate based on a disposition can be detrimental and can change the course of the children’s lives. Historically arranged marriages are quite common in many cultures across the world, particularly among wealthy royals and aristocrats who want to ensure that the family’s wealth is preserved. Today, quite a number of couples are still experiencing this situation, which is quite unfortunate considering the world is evolving and the various perceptions of people. It is therefore important to follow your heart in pursuit of your happiness.

SACRIFICE ALL YOU HAVE

Love can become unfair when you marry someone you love and realise many years into your marriage that he/she had always loved someone else. Even though you may find yourself in a tricky situation, you have a choice to make; a decision that will shape the future of your marriage. This may also create the opportunity to hold on firmly to your spouse and sacrifice whatever it will take to win back his heart from the external threats to your marriage or see the situation as a red flag to say goodbye. Nevertheless, there are certain things in life that are worth fighting for and if you believe your marriage is one of them, you should be prepared to sacrifice your pride and dignity to take back what belongs to you.

CLASS CHANGES EVERYTHING

Some women marry for love while others marry for status, wealth and the prospect of a successful life, which purely requires a flawless display of character to complement the spouse. Character is an essential element of a good marriage regardless of class and marrying a man from a privileged family can come with many barriers; only a wise and reasonable woman may be able to navigate the dynamics of a highly valued man. A woman marrying a privileged man may need to have a humble disposition and submit to all the mandatory etiquettes that come with his values, which may include losing some of her freedom and carrying herself with poise and dignity in public at all times.

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