This is my address to the woman coming from an experience of brokenness.
Dearest sister,
The first thing that I want to make you understand is that it is not everyone’s success story that will be will be told through marriage or even biological children.
Yet, everyone’s success story is waiting to be told just not in the same way. So, as your path becomes clearer to you, embrace your journey with grace. One is happier not fighting the waves of destiny.
Live your highest life in whatever circumstances life throws at you. Of all the lenses to view your journey with, the social media should be the least.
Resist the pressure of using every noise on the social media as yardstick to measure your success.
Don’t be pressured by the ‘advertised happiness,’ live in your truth behind the closed-door happiness if far from a lot of ‘love’ displays out there.
Stop telling your story everywhere. A lot of people don’t deserve that privilege. Your misfortune will rather entertain most people because, without even knowing it, many people only feel good about themselves because someone else is NOT happy. Some people are only compatible with a LESS version of you. I mean, they desire not the company of your wholeness but that of your brokenness.
End that mass of pity party. And begin to expend all that energy on your healing journey. However, there will be a set of people to whom you owe ‘your story.’
Those are the people that life has positioned on your path to hold hands with towards healing. Respect your journey through your choices. Do not choose the lesser life. It’s a lesser life when your whole essence is to prove a point to ‘somebody’ or to ‘show them.’
Choose a life that is YOURS. A life that is yours doesn’t play to the gallery of others’ expectations. Do not make a home out of your brokenness. All your experiences lead to your highest good. You just don’t know it yet.
What you must not do is touch settings that diminish your peace and sense of self-worth again!
You should not desire anybody more than you desire your own company. It’s who you choose to become every day that defines the rest of your life, not your past!
Find your bliss from within. Make cozy your own space and find bliss there in. Your life can not be blissful with another if it’s not already blissful with YOU.
There is no happiness ‘over there,’ if it’s hard to find ‘right here.’ Invest your emotions in positivity. Life will call on you again with a beautiful story.
Let them talk to your back. Nobody who has a good life makes yours their business. It’s those seeking to escape from their shitty reality that make the lives of others a topic. It might interest you to know that you (in all your supposed brokenness) are more honourable than your traducers.
When you love, choose the person who is committed to choosing you. Sometimes drop the ego and fantasies to hold a good person with both hands. There is no wisdom in sidestepping the one before you to seek the one that has slapped you with emotional UNAVAILABILITY, in no small measures.
If they are not making the commitments, don’t choose them. That heart of yours deserves better, dearest sister!
The real DEFEAT is bitterness and despair. Your strength lies in moving on, even as the tears drop. Commit to getting better by the day. I always preach that continuous self-improvement is the greatest revenge.
Make yourself the project. But be soft enough to welcome LOVE when it comes around. Only the ‘pleasant in spirit’ receives the offerings of love.
Credit: Chukwuneta Oby, Punch