Dear Ma,
I saw your post on Facebook reaching out to 29 to 45 years old virgins and I thought to reach out to you. Although I am not in Lagos, neither am I in the age bracket, I just felt the need to get in touch with you. I live in Abuja and I turned 50 in October 2022, but I am still a virgin. I feel so terrible that I have not been fortunate in relationships and I asked myself a lot of questions but I still do not have answers. I can’t even tell anyone about my state. My friends I graduated with from school call me “Frustrated Jesus Baby” and I feel bad about it, so I decided to stay on my own. I made a vow to marry as a virgin when I was 13 years old and somehow, God has kept me. But I don’t know why I have not been able to get married.
Life hasn’t been fair since I lost my father at age 14 and I don’t know why God allowed it. But I know He loves me and that love has cost a lot of pain. I am waiting and looking up to Him to see how it will all end!
Please tell my people that being a virgin is just not enough. I am not saying it is our fault to find ourselves in a position where life is unsavory to us, but to an extent, we have at one point or the other given the devil the weapon to keep us in bondage. The devil uses a weakness in us to hold us down and that is my case. Though I don’t know how it started, I just know my life changed the moment I lost my dad. And when I started thinking about it last week, I realised my life or my emotions were buried if that is how I should put it; all the joy, laughter, peace and excitement were gone and the only nonsense thing I was left with was anger. The Lord spoke about it when I stopped working. I used to work in a bank but I resigned or was forced to resign because I refused to play along. I just finished learning fashion design and waiting for the next line of action ma. I will be glad if I can be talking to you about my challenges in relationships though I have no relationship now. Thank you.
I must confess that I’m dazed at your confession although I know older virgins and I tell you heaven must be so proud of you but at the same time worried at your lack of a fulfilled life despite the awesome power of God that’s meant to be resident inside of you! It is God’s wish that we shouldn’t be alone and I can tell you He’s long provided your help-meet but how come you’re yet to meet him? If you’re not married at 50+ when you’ve not planned to be celibate for life, when will you have children? Nonetheless, you chose the best part any Christian should follow and God is about to honour you beyond your wildest dreams because He’s committed to those who are committed to Him!
No matter what anyone thinks about your status at your age — not only are you blessed among women — you are a spiritual titan akin to a deity. Except you haven’t been activating the power of God in you, which I believe the devil is cashing in on to tie you down, delay you in the valley of life and deny you of things your spirituality and the magnificent presence of God inside of you should naturally magnetise to you! How can you be unspoilt, uncontaminated, and full of virtue and not have a good job, more than enough money to enjoy life, even if you haven’t found the man you think you should settle down with? You can’t imagine the type of power you carry, what it can avail you and how much you can command life to suit you! I know what I’m talking about! And if you don’t take advantage of your wholeness and the power of God resident inside of you — the devil would ensure you regret abstaining from defiling God’s temple all the while!
You ought to have become a walking wonder — a city set on a hill that the world cannot but marvel at by now as a result of the light in you even if you’ve not found the right spouse! There are chances your life could be under a satanic attack. However, the good thing is that you have the supernal power of God in you ready to give you victory in one fell swoop!
…to be continued
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