The 30 year old alleged Nigerian Lesbian, Kafayat Adegoke who tricked a man into getting her pregnant because she didn’t want to use a surrogate and couldn’t afford IVF but desperately wanted a child, has been criticized by critics who think she is being selfish by excluding the baby’s Dad from its life.
Matt O’Connor, founder of Fathers For Justice says a child needs a mother AND a father in their life.
He said:
And it is a fundamental human right that a child has access to their father. It is sad that anyone wants to bring a baby into the world in the knowledge that they are denying them access to half of their family
It isn’t just the dad who loses out but also the paternal grandmother and grandfather
Unfortunately, women are stopping fathers becoming involved in children’s lives more and more with devastating consequences
We would support this man in taking legal action to gain access to his child.
Anne Diamond, a new agony aunt said:
Kafayat is showing she’s little more than a child herself. She thinks having a baby is all about her
It’s not, it is always about the child who will grow up questioning why he or she hasn’t got a daddy
It’s one thing to grow up fatherless because he couldn’t, or didn’t want to be around. Quite another to discover your mother deliberately deprived you of a dad. On top of that, it’s miserably unfair to the unsuspecting men
Stop it, Kafayat. Grow up before your selfishness deprives your child of a decent mother too.
Emma Kenny, a psychologist, therapist and lecturer says Kafayat is a manipulator that has no right to deny her baby a relationship with its father
She said:
She has completely taken advantage of this man. When a child is brought into this world both a mother and father are of equal importance
She has tricked him and manipulated him into answering questions to find out his suitability for a process he didn’t even know he was involved in
Then to actually wish to exclude him, basically branding him worthless, displays a certain degree of narcissism. She is denying the importance of men, revealing a warped sense of her own self worth
Not the best quality for a mother, it suggests she’s willing to do whatever it takes to get what she wants
Children like to have a relationship with their father. In denying him a part in the child’s future, she’s making a decision for a child who has a right to know who their father is
She doesn’t have the right to remove this opportunity.
They are also trying to contact the man who got Kafayat pregnant with the ad below:
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Are you the daddy? Did you get Kafayat pregnant or were you one of the other men? Email features@sundaymirror.co.uk or call 0207 2933061.
Source: LIB
please l need your help as my son has not seen his daughter for nearly five years now.We as grand parents are also desperate to see our grand daughter.
I reckon you and your son live in Nigeria. While it may be difficult tracing somebody who does not want to be traced, it is moreso in the case of Nigeria where there are no database for people movement such as postal, hospital and vehicle registration records. You can check on social and family networks of the child’s mother, her associations to include professional and cultural affiliations. Depending on how resourceful you are, individual tracing may cost time and money and Nigeria will give the former if they receive the latter for the effort. It does not have to cost ‘arm and leg’. Token offers and a most recent picture of mother and daughter will aid a promising outcome.
Good luck in your search.
Thank you for the advice, we live in Europe. I will like to speak to someone over the phone to give more details. thanks
Mr. Kenneth Obi. As you live in Europe, you may consider whether your grandchild’s mother is always somewhere abroad. This may not be problematic if she lives in Europe, and worth some enquiries in America because of the database efficiency.
In every possibility, even in Nigeria, the Voters card is now a source of database identification, this should be able to match name, gender, ethnicity, (any probable occupation), Schools and health services will be able to track names as well and Police records may place some ‘markers’ on the details you provide to them to enable the search. Nevertheless, family network is a ‘natural’ source – unless, of course, there’s been none during the period your son and the child’s mother were together.
You should approach Nigeria consular services in your country of abode as the Chancery section may be able to assist you in your search.
Good luck, again.