A pretty Nigerian lady, Sharon @prettylitlethug, said on her X (Twitter) handle, that she has proved at an NYSC camp that Okafor’s Law is not real after all, when she decided to bed three different men and never went back to them for sex no matter how good they were, having sex with her.
What is Okafor’s law? Okafor’s Law gives men a sense of entitlement to women’s bodies. The theory implies that once a man has had sex with a woman and it was good. He somewhat has a right to her body.
The definition given by Urban Dictionary is the plot of a Nollywood movie of the same name released in 2016. In Okafor’s Law (2016), a man is asked to test this theory by his friends and goes on to seduce two women he was previously in a relationship with.
When the movie was released, there was a lot of buzz surrounding the theory. Many entertainment and media outlets published articles and asked the general public about its authenticity.
See her post on X below:
during nysc, in one SAED class, 3 of my male friends I met in camp were talking of Okafor’s law and how all women they sleep with always come back, it was funny to me so after camp I slept with all 3 of them at different times and never spoke to all of them again.
fake law https://t.co/9T9MEFUOA0
— Sharon 🦋💎 (@prettylitlethug) February 24, 2024
In one article, a man said the law was “as accurate as physics“, while a woman said it was a “sexist myth”. Some men said the theory held because women barely experience orgasms during sex, and when they finally get the man who gives them orgasms, they’d keep going back to him to experience it again.
Okafor’s Law is problematic in many ways. It encourages stereotypes that women have no agency, moral principles or values. It perpetuates a narrative that sex or a man’s ability to pleasure a woman sexually clouds all sense of reason.
It also keys into the belief that “good dick will make a woman do anything”, which is an unhealthy way to think about sex. Also, Okafor’s law forgets to factor in women who are not attracted to men or are asexual.
Document Women asked a group of women what they thought about Okafor’s law. Many of them agreed that it was a very negative and unrealistic stereotype.
Elohor thinks that the theory is somewhat rooted in rape culture.
“It’s false and, frankly, rapey. We aren’t animals. We have agency. Personally, it’s not great sex, except you’re a good person. And even if you’re the best, if I’ve moved on, I’ve moved on,” Elohor said.
Okafor’s Law exaggerates the obvious, that if a person finds a good sexual encounter with someone else, they are most likely to return to that person.