Older men appeal to some young ladies. You may wonder why a beautiful, young, presumably intelligent girl will leave a trail of young and energetic young men running after her to pitch her tent with an older man. It has to do with choice.
It is not new that young girls are going for much older men these days when it comes to dating and marriage. It is becoming a trend that young girls are marrying older men who are no doubt rich too.
According to some of these ladies who shun societal judgments, they say dating older men is exciting because they are better in bed and more experienced with women, and with the money in the background being an added advantage.
Some of them gush about the intelligence of these older men who swept them off their feet. Although marrying a younger guy can be fun and exciting, typically older men are more established, they say.
Some of these ladies shared their experience with us:
ABIMBOLA: Age should not be a hindrance
I really don’t see anything wrong with that. My husband is twenty years older than me and today, I’m happy because that was the best step I have ever taken in my life. We have been happily married for four years now. In my previous relationship, the guy was just four years older than me but we were always quarrelling and even fought severally. So I had to quit the relationship before I met my hubby who is loving and caring. He does everything for me. From my experience, I have realized age is just a number if you love the person in question. Since I love everything about him, age should not be a hindrance because he handles any challenge in our marriage maturely. I am not matured enough to handle some situations considering my age. I am his third wife and that doesn’t matter.
WINIFRED: I have never regretted it
My husband is twenty four years older than me. We have been together for eight years now.
I have never, ever regretted it. He is the love of my life. Why did I pick him originally? For the same reason that most people marry: because I was madly in love with him, and he with me. It wasn’t about his money. Sometimes people judge women who marry older men unfairly. Money is not everything. You just have to be with someone who truly loves and respects you for who you are and allows you to be yourself all the time and not one trying to cage you and turn you into someone else because of insecurity. I don’t think age makes a difference. If you click, you click. It’s not easy sometimes dealing with his health challenges and emotional feelings, but am glad we are going on this journey together.
NELLY: We chose to be with each other
I have been married to my husband who is twenty two years my senior for eleven years. We have two kids and couldn’t be happier. We have had our ups and downs of course, same as any other married couple, but we are doing just fine. I love him, and he loves me. I wouldn’t want to be with anyone else. He and I have a great friendship, and we share the same sense of humour. He is my lover, and my best friend in life. We have the same interests and enjoy the same activities. He is also very handsome.
When we met, neither of us knew each other’s ages. We just were attracted to each other. We really didn’t think about how old one another were, we just connected. By the time we realized, it was already set. We were meant to be, and still are. We chose to be with each other because we fell in love.
I will never regret being with my husband. He is my lover and best friend. I don’t see how an age difference can change how people view marriage. How is this different than any other married couple? We have lasted far longer than most of our friends who have no age difference whatsoever.
The only people who seem to have an issue are people not in a relationship of their own and have too much time on their hands, or people who are very unhappy in their own relationships. The fact that anyone would care so much about my life, or the age difference in my marriage, tells me that their life is far too screwed up.
Credit: Feminine.com.ng