In her sermon to single ladies, a female pastor admonished them to start investing in wigs.
According to her, putting on natural hair will not “market” (marriage wise) a lady to men.
Then, she went further to opine that any lady who doesn’t like wearing wigs can do away with them as soon as she has the ring on their fingers.
Some words are so shallow they should not emanate from the pulpit.
Wearing wigs is not every lady’s preference and every lady should be encouraged to feel beautiful in whatever look they are at home with.
Ladies who wear wigs should do so because it makes them feel beautiful, but the disappointment is when all that is done to “catch a man”.
The shocking truth is that about six to seven out of 10 men are not crazy about wigs.
I also have a problem with encouraging ladies to be desperate in their search (for a husband).
Such a “searching” is really not necessary if we understand that life has its ways when it comes to our destiny.
Most ladies I know didn’t meet ‘Mr Right’ in their desperate era.
Actually, that’s when they touched the dust (with men) the most, because desperation will never give you what is worth it.
What I preach to single ladies is to go on living their lives.
The obsession should be to live your best life daily.
In living your best life daily, self-improvement and development are guaranteed.
Self-care and self-love become your scripture.
The quality of your life and interactions are made better.
When these efforts become a way of life for you, you really don’t bother searching for anybody because life is giving you daily experiences that can alter your marital status any day.
Don’t live like your life is incomplete because there’s no husband yet.
If there’s anything you should shun in your life as a single lady, it is searching desperately for a husband.
Otherwise, plenty of mistakes are bound to come knocking.
There’s something about the energy we bring into our daily life.
If you enable the energy of desperation, ’anyhow’ human beings will start lining your path.
If you have a healthy sense of worth, it’s really not important to search for a husband.
Instead, learn to live your best life daily, taking into account that a best life does not happen without a better attitude (way of life).
Life does not respond favorably to desperation because it negates her principles.
Life favours patience. And she is big on times and seasons.
Intentionally excise desperation from your life.
Desperation is you telling life that there’s nothing else in your life that’s worth cherishing.
Live life to the fullest, regardless of your marital circumstances.
A relationship must not be marriage-bound for you to savour it.
Most ladies are even yet to accept the fact that not everyone is destined to be married.
Whatever path life has placed you on, please endeavor to live it with purpose.
You will become less distracted by every marriage talk!
One of the reasons you are not happy is because of all that ‘desperate searching’.
Desperation will frustrate you!
Desperation does not walk with happiness and calm; the very tools that make life enjoyable.
Learning to maximise every of your ‘now’ via your choices is what it means to live your best life daily.
Life is brief.
Take whatever the day brings and make the best out of it.
You really don’t want to look back at your life and realise the needless unhappiness you brought upon yourself because there’s no husband in the picture.
If having children is your concern and you have the wherewithal, I know that you know there are ways to make your dream come true.
The important thing is to cut needless sadness out of your life.
Desperation is the major bearer of sadness in life.
Credit: Chukwuneta Oby