Are Husbands as old as Daddies Better Lovers?
By Olusina Akeredolu
There is no doubt that maturity grows with age. These days that every moral standard of the society is at its lowest ebb and is being lost to modern civilization, young girls no longer care a hoot about the age of their lovers and partners anymore. Many girls from very poor background these days finance their schooling needs in the tertiary institutions or general needs by being lovers of sugar daddies especially the very rich ones that are as old as their fathers. In actual fact many sugar daddies are older than the fathers of their lover girl friends. Many of these young girls pull the mouthstaches of their sugar daddies at will and call them by their names with impunity. They say, since they do it together, they have become mates.
In order not to make a sweeping statement, not every young girl of poor background finances her school and general needs by romancing men who are in their 60s and 70s and thus 40 to 45 years older than them. There are still girls who see the use of their bodies to get what they need and want as abomination. This has nothing to do with station in life. There are many young girls whose parents are stinking rich, they don’t lack anything and yet very promiscuous. They will in fact be giving money they collect from their parents to the boys or men who satisfy their lust. Self respect also has nothing to do with religious fanaticism because that is a personal thing. It depends on individual and self discipline. There are many who almost sleep in the church halls but nevertheless lack societal moral, self respect and discipline. They make immoral advances to others right inside the church hall regardless of marital status. There are many also who don’t even go to church or mosque as they live for humanity, they don’t toy with their integrity and dignity. They try as much as possible to distant themselves from anything that can taint their names. That one is a personal thing also.
Now to the topic at hand. While many boys and girls display immaturity and are very impatient in their love and daily dealings, leading to constant quarrel and violence because of their young age, many start their love affairs in their teens and yet, they are best of partners. Those in the latter category always show genuine love to themselves and will never hurt one and the other. Whenever they have misunderstanding, they settle it between themselves without involving any third party. They don’t base their mutual living on riches and comfort. Whenever they have, they enjoy it and whenever they don’t have, they bear it together without complaint and without laying any blame of the lack on the corridor of any of them.
While it is true that maturity goes with age, this may not be an absolute truthful philosophy. As education is not same as intelligence, age does not command correctness or righteousness at all times. If somebody is hot or quick tempered by instinct or innate ability, oldness of age might not be able to control it and likewise, a gentle man is a gentle man and would remain so till old age. Many young girls, now-a-days prefer to ‘love’ very old men. They base this on the theory that old men are not as aggressive as young boys. While this may be true to an extent, I think there are other reasons why young ladies tilt toward very old men in matters of love and relationship. There are many brutal and violent old men who will bombard their wives at every slightest provocation while there are very many gentle young men who hate raising up their hands to beat their wives or other women for that matter. In fact, there are many young men who are more mature than some old men. One’s character and trait will always have a role to play in intimacy and love relationship between a man and a woman because pretence can only last for awhile.
In most cases, girls rush into the arms of old men for reasons of riches and comfort. In such cases, it is the old man that suffers because the young girls are not going into such relationships for the sake of love. Unless the man is a widower or a divorcee where it would be her and the husband, if not so, the young girl, in a place like Nigeria, will be going into the relationship either as a second or third or even fourth wife. Those types of girls have nothing to lose but everything to gain. True, they may miss long hard banging which can only be given by men of their age but what they are unable to get from the old men by way of intimacy and pleasure, they will always step out to enjoy it with very energetic men of their age or those who are a little bit older. This is not to rule out the fact that there are young girls who would prefer to marry men as old as their fathers and yet would remain submissive, loving, caring, respectful and loyal to their husbands. There are many examples of ladies like that in Nigeria.
It has been argued that there are old men who are as good and are even better bangers than young men. In that case, their young wives will enjoy them as well as their money. Young girls who want to be loyal to their husband and would prefer to go for old men should start praying to meet this category of old men.