Losing your virginity is often a topic that concerns and scares young women a lot, causing anxiety and even an overwhelming fear of any attempt at physical intimacy. A whole range of myths and inaccuracies about your first time are likely to be the cause of this. A good knowledge and understanding of your anatomy and bodily functions, as well as some self-practice before the “big day” are essential in order for you to lose your virginity painlessly and pleasurably.
The misconception of the hymen. Most people believe the hymen is a piece of flesh that will necessarily break, cause pain and bleed the first time a girl has intercourse. This is a myth. The hymen is a membrane that covers part of the vagina’s entrance. However, it has a hole in it, from where menstrual blood flows to the outside. An adolescent girl’s hymen is either likely to have broken through the practice of sports, masturbation or insertion of a tampon. Even if not broken, the hymen’s hole will have stretched enough by the time a girl is about initiate intimacy, resulting in only very mild pain and little bleeding (or none at all) when the male genitalia is inserted. On the other hand, you might bleed a lot. It is also normal, so don’t be scared.
So why does it hurt a little? The truth is that the possible breaking of the hymen will play a very subtle role in terms of pain felt during your initiation. In most cases, it is the inside muscles of your genitals that may cause discomfort and pain. The myth that your first night is always painful causes these muscles to subconsciously tighten and spasm, causing penetration to be much more difficult than necessary. It is the nervousness and misconception of first-time penetration that causes it. But don’t worry because there are ways to overcome it naturally and easily.
Importantly, you must be sure you are ready to take this step. Remember that the initiation of a relationship with your partner will change things, most likely from a teenage-love stage to a much deeper and intimate sort of relationship. Also, make sure that you (or even your partner) are not being pressured to take this step. If you decide you don’t want to do it, you have the right to simply say ‘no’ and be respected for it.
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