Nigerian men just like men all over the world come in different characters. There are the loving, caring and understanding ones who usually say, ‘I can’t imagine raising up my hands to beat my wife.’ And there are the not so understanding, considerate ones who say, ‘ladies should be thought a lesson from time to tome.’
According to Nigerian culture, a man is the head of the house. Meaning he should be the provider and quite a number of Nigerian men take that seriously. That is why it is not seen in Nigeria that a man will choose to stay at home with the kids, that is, a stay at home dad as you see in western world, while his wife go out to work and provide for the family. Such acts make the man look weak when he is not.
A Nigerian husband is expected to be the bread winner and he usually is; except in unforeseen circumstances like when he suddenly loses his job and the financial expenses has to fall on his wife. If that happens a Nigerian man’s pride becomes hurt and that’s when you see a side of him you never knew was there; because a typical Nigerian man does not want to stress his wife, he wants to provide for her and the family. (Credits: Oyatotalk; Image: handsandhearts/Zazzle)
There are no stay at home moms or dads in Nigeria and there are non in the Western world. Circumstances are different and only few people willingly choose to no do some productive work. Every so often, Nigerian men assume that women who are involved in commerce, buying and selling, as well as taken care of the children, are somehow “stay at home” women while their husbands engaged in whatever, are “bread” winners. Not so in my books, all Nigerian women are busy doing something, they are either involved in farming, buying and selling, white collar jobs etc as well as raising children. Indeed most of them work more than the men who only go to their 9 to 5 jobs, come home and demand food served, by the same woman who has been busy with other things including looking after children. Nigerian men really need to change their attitudes about the Nigerian woman. They really work hard and keep the society moving. I hate it when ignorant writers attempt to demean them.
Mr. Congeniality get a grip. What are you man, chorus singer for womenfolks or what. Here in the US, both folks work just as hard, men and women. If for whatever reason a woman choses to work gazzilion jobs, because of their foolish needs to buy crappy stuff typical Nigerian women gets involve with, that’s her problem. She still has to remember her first duty, being a wife and a mother, period. Once she forgets this, as you would expect, problems ensues. From thate moment these women starts to go nuts about working three, four jobs. They start to act funny. They want to give orders to their men. Especially those foolish nurses. They acts as if they rule the world. With those attitudes, you’d wonder what a doctor would do. Funny, the doctors are the most reasonably accommodating women there are. But the nurses, geez.
So Mr goody two shoes, come off your silliness. All anyone needs in life is one good paying job, period. And that is what men do. This way, they would have time to spend quality periods with their families at home, and enjoy life a bit. All these suffer, suffer for world, enjoy for heaven crap is germane to Nigerian women, yes. In the Islamic world, or the Judaic world, the rules stays the same. As was prescribed in the Books of knowledge to all mankind. So go kiss your wife dude so you don’t get the short ends of the stick tonight.