Couples should bear it in mind that having problems with sexuality or erection does not mean that one is physiologically or psychologically abnormal in any way. A man shouldn’t allow his self-esteem and sex-esteem to suffer. The moment this is allowed, the case becomes worse. Rather, it is better to abstain from intercourse altogether for a period of time and married couples should instead engage more in cuddling and nonsexual touches. Gradually, over a period of weeks or months, depending on the couple, the partners would have worked toward a more relaxing atmosphere and then intercourse will naturally follow. This idea is to make sex a less-threatening experience and to overcome the anxiety grip.
Couples can even add some spice to the lovemaking by going to a different setting. They can change the routine by trying out new positions. Stress arising either from performance anxiety or from other life situations can worsen sexual disorder and erectile dysfunction. Regardless of the cause, it’s difficult to enjoy oneself when one has too much on his mind. Try relaxation exercises such as deep breathing or progressive muscle relaxation, where you consciously tense and relax each part of the body in sequence.
Feel free to express your feelings. Marital difficulties are notorious contributors to sexual problems. Anger, resentment and hurt feelings often spill into a couple’s sex life, turning the bedroom into a battlefield. This situation is likely to develop if partners don’t communicate. Share your feelings with your spouse. This festive period is the best time to really relax because it is full of fun. Use “I” statements, and keep the focus on your feelings, instead of your partner’s actions. Doing a thorough housecleaning of the relationship may very well clear the way for a healthier sexual union instead of storing up emotional debris.
Don’t drink before sex. Drinking alcohol or being drunk can significantly impair your sexual functioning. Try once in a while to recapture your previous successful experiences. If performance anxiety has undermined your confidence, thinking about positive sexual relationships or experiences you have had in the past may help boost your self-esteem. It may also convince you that you can have a fulfilling sex life in the future. Involve your partner. Although erectile difficulties originate with the man while sexual disorders originate both from man and woman, these challenges are a married couple’s problem and can be sorted out by the couple. If the problem is not medical, there are many home remedies strategies.
Have a positive mind-set. Just as you are so optimistic about every other life issue, believe that sexual disorder and erectile dysfunction can be completely resolved. For many of these sexual challenges, a few minutes visit to the hospital and basic medical routine check-up may detect some underlying causes. When they are treated, these ‘gigantic’ challenges easily become issues of the past.
Eating up to 100g on a regular basis of some of our common natural foods is highly beneficial in healing various forms of sexual disorder especially in females and also increases libido and sexual power in men. Some of the foods are Alfalfa sprouts, pistachios, almonds, dried dates, walnuts, local popcorn, quince seeds, salmon, garlic, wheat, black gram, honey, boiled egg, ginger, nuts and white onions. Some of them are well packaged in capsule forms and are available. If you need some of them, you can give me a call.
Natural therapies, like full body massages with olive oil to the base of the penis, lateral sides of the pubic area of the woman and hot baths done with coconut oil regularly are home remedies that have done wonders.
Besides this, couple can adopt cooling method remedy. This is best achieved during foreplay. When you caress your wife and she fondles your penis with good lubricant, soon you will notice that you will reach the point where you will be forced to tell her, ‘’Wait…I am close to ejaculating, but I don’t want to ejaculate until I’m inside you. So stop fondling me for a few minutes, I need to cool.’’ But during those minutes, you will continue to caress her, concentrate more on her nipples and clitoris [you can even suck them] while she lets go of your penis for few minutes until you say, “okay, fondle me again,’’ and soon after that you will tell her, “wait … I need to cool again.’’ Repeat this ‘fondle-cool’ many times. [That is before you enter her, she fondles your penis, but she doesn’t make you ejaculate.] Then you enter her. Because she fondled you before entry many times, this will help train you to the extent that when you eventually enter her, you will not ejaculate too soon. Do not worry if you have little success the first time you try the ‘fondle-cool home remedy. It may take weeks. Just remember, before you enter your wife, let her fondle your penis for a long time, but without making you ejaculate. After some weeks, you will find that this is helping you to slow down after you finally enter her. It will also help you to make your wife climax.
Another home remedy is the PC muscle exercise or Kegel exercise. This is helpful because it is very natural and can be done anywhere anytime and as many times as possible. Kegel exercise is all about squeezing the PC each time you pass urine. Why urine? Because the PC controls the bladder and the urethra of the man, it even spreads to the prostrate and the pelvic wall. All you need to do is make sure you drink a cup of water every hour. This helps you to visit the bathroom and as soon as you want to urinate, just make sure you are not bringing out the urine at once. Divide the urine into three and as soon as you push out the first part, stop and squeeze. Repeating this over and over strengthens the PC cord and invariably reduces the rush of the sperm leading to quick ejaculation during thrusting in and out.
The masters and Johnson squeeze remedy is also one of several techniques men can use to develop the ability to control ejaculation and exercise weak penis. Ask your wife to caress you to point of arousal. As soon as you get a full erection (not before orgasm – just when you get a full erection), she should stop and put her two index fingers under the base of the cap of your penis. The thumb must be placed over the frenulum, which is the elastic band of the penis; it connects the foreskin to the penis. She should then squeeze it hard for about four seconds (she needs to squeeze quite hard), you may even lose between 10 and 30 per cent of your erection because of the squeezing. This is completely normal. Your partner should wait for 15-30 seconds after releasing the squeeze before starting to stimulate your penis again. As soon as you re-gain a full erection, the squeeze technique can again be done. This pattern can be repeated 4-5 times in the first time. When you have done this a few times, it gradually firms the tissues of the penis.
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